Tuesday, March 4, 2014

How much to trust?

When a father asks his child who is standing on a book shelf to jump in his arms, it does unhesitatingly. It has a complete trust in his dad and a belief that he will come to no harm .That kind of trust is never possible in this cynical world where we believe that we are vulnerable when we trust someone. But without some trust can the world move on? Do we not walk on the road peacefully trusting that other vehicle users of road follow the rules? Do we not send young children out to play believing no one will take them away? Can there be love and joy without some basic trust in human goodness?
When we go to a doctor and get some medicines prescribed, we trust his judgment implicitly and take the medicines. Likewise when we buy medicines from chemists, we believe that they are not duplicates or fakes. We do not weigh the packets bought at grocery store. In our day to day transactions we trust people to a large extent as otherwise life would become unhappy. There may be disappointments on a few occasions no doubt but we should learn to live with it and not distrust everyone. Someone put it ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.”
Trust is based on the belief that others have confidence in you and your ability and will not take unfair advantage of you. It is the ability to create relationships with others based on mutual respect and caring. Good friends never betray your trust.
 Uncongenial atmosphere of hate or lack of love, divorced parents, emotional and physical abuse, broken relationship, death of close relative, chronic illness and low self esteem could all lead to lack of trust and suspicion. Getting over this is not easy without constant practice and motivation from others. I would put a strong faith in God as the first step. This belief that He would take care of your troubles would gradually reduce the mistrust and enable you to ‘let go’ the hurts and disappointments. Mingling and living with positive minded people would provide the healing environment. Overcoming unwanted fears, developing self esteem in one’s capabilities and building trusting relationships after due care would be the way to go about to get over this malaise.
This is written for WriteTribe Festival of Words Day 3 - Prompt Free write.

22 comments:

  1. ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” this is so true.
    The trust in God should be paramount and our Karma plays an important part too (some people may not believe this) . Rest everything falls into place.

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  2. How true. Trust is the basis of all relationships. And yes, it is put to test many times and we also lose it now and then. But where is peace without trust? It is as vital to life as oxygen is to the body.
    Very well chosen topic and extrapolation.

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  3. A thoughtful post. When you trust you live otherwise you just survive. In my perspective, trust is the foundation of all relationships and the best trait one can have. Trust is to be built constantly.

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  4. Such deep thoughts and well presented too.
    I agree to a great extent we should surround our self with positivity and positive people.

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  5. An inspiring post. We must learn to trust other wise we will always be worrying whether we are wrong or right. Trust me I wrote these few words in a second, as I have to go somewhere.

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  6. Trust is a beautiful characteristic that comes with birth. Experiences and Life tend to erode that. But, yes, Faith can help you hang on to Trust.

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  7. how true is this.. your random thoughts are so deep! Good

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  8. Trust is the most important ingredient in any relationship, isn't it ! What's a family or a friendship without trust ? And how do we live without trusting someone. Every day we go to sleep trusting God that we'll wake up to see the next day. An apt topic for the day, Sir !

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  9. Coming back to read you after a long time. I really missed these two drops of wisdom posts. Loved this one too.

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  10. Very true. If we decide to blindly trust the Almighty life would seem a lot easier. But getting to that state is easier said than done. We tend to break our heads with total mistrust about everything around us .

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  11. 'Trust is based on the belief that others have confidence in you and your ability and will not take unfair advantage of you. It is the ability to create relationships with others based on mutual respect and caring. Good friends never betray your trust.' How true! We can never experience peace without trusting the people surrounding us. Very well written post!

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  12. Trust is probably THE most important ingredient in any relationship. It is like the cement of a foundation. If it starts to crack, the whole building will be unstable. Our experiences with people make us add more or less of this cement!

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  13. Everything in this world is based on trust...sometimes this trust works wonders just for the sake of its believer....a thoughtful post

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  14. An awesome post ...filled with thoughtful suggestions ...

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  15. An amazing post filled in with thoughtful suggestions ....

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  16. Very interesting ... a post that left me with something to think about also:-) Great flow in your line of reflections - truly enjoyed reading it.. Thanks:-)

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  17. Trust is something that can easily be broken. And once it is broken it takes a while for that trust to be reinstated. Being surrounded by good people who mean no harm is a dream for many. But in this world today, how is it even possible? But like you rightly said, what will do if we begin to mistrust everyone! Life would definitely be miserable. :(

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  18. Trust is the basis of any relationship I believe...If you truly understand the meaning of 'I love you', isn't it saying 'I trust you' or 'my trust is with you' Lovely post!

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  19. i have always given one mark more to trust than even love!!

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  20. Its very important to trust the deserving people, only then we can be sure of not being let down.

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  21. A great post! Without trust, everything falls apart in life!

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  22. Trust is the foundation of all relationships. And nowadays its become a desirable virtue. The ironies of modern life.very thought provoking post.

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